HOW TO BE IRRESISTIBLE TO WOMEN: BEING THE BAD BOY…

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So you want to know how to be irresistible to women? Well understand this first.

It’s hard to identify when it happened but it did. Somewhere in our male history, without us really noticing, we got divided into two camps—the good guys and the bad boys.

Look around you. The world is full of allusions to both extremes: James Bond versus the bad guy, the dark side against the force and Yin versus Yang.

The problem is that this isn’t really true.

It’s a quixotic way of looking at things because it doesn’t take into consideration the important third option of being in the middle ground.

Yes, there is a middle ground.

Staying in the middle ground will give you the benefits of both worlds. Women don’t like nice men because they put them on a pedestal and allow them to get away with everything without putting up a fight.

No woman wants a man-puppy. But they don’t want a wild Rottweiler either.

You won’t score any points by being the bad guy who treats them like dirt and never listens to what they have to say.

The middle ground allows you to compromise. You’re still a good guy but with an added twist. You’re in connection with your “inner bad boy”.

It’s a unique combination that women find irresistible.

And here are 7 proven techniques of how to achieve that.

How to be irresistible to women technique 1: Be a rebel.

You don’t need to break the law. In fact, it’s very advisable that you don’t. But you don’t need to always follow the rules of the traditional relationship either.

Who says you can’t grab her and kiss her in the middle of a street?

What’s stopping you from dropping by her office and giving her a long hug during her lunch break? Rebels don’t always have to be jerks.

Break a few conventional rules and show her you can be fun.

How to be irresistible to women technique 2: Get Physical

Hit the gym or sign up with a martial arts class. There are very few things that are as attractive as a man who is in shape who can kick some butt if the need should ever arise.

Girls love it. It appeals to their romantic side—the part that dreams of a strong handsome prince that will keep them safe and protected.

It’s why lean guys with leather biker jackets get so much attention. It’s why you’ll become irresistible as well.

How to be irresistible to women technique 3: Appear Confident

Its okay if you have self-doubts. Just be sure to never allow them to bubble to the surface. Women love a confident man. It keeps them safe and secure.

Show your confidence by holding her hands and looking in her eyes when you talk. Make subtle protective gestures like sticking to the side closest to road during a walk or opening the door to a cab. Make her feel protected and she’ll love you more for it.

How to be irresistible to women technique 4: Surprise them

Women love surprises. It’s like finding a nugget of chocolate in a bowl of ice cream. It makes the experience so much sweeter. Surprise her by doing things against the social norm.

Break off in the middle of great conversation for some sudden emergency. Do the unexpected. It’ll make her more attracted to you without you being the villain.

How to be irresistible to women technique 5: Break out of the Norm

Nice guys always do what they’re expected to do. They complement a girl about how lovely her hair is and say hello whenever they approach. There’s nothing wrong with this except that it’s….expected.

A hundred guys will say hello to her in a week. Be the odd guy who doesn’t.

Instead, flirt shamelessly and then flirt some more. Laugh at a sexual comment. Tease her about an experience. You don’t need to be rude.

Show her you’re a guy who is confident enough to do things outside the norm. Show her you’re fun and she’ll be drawn to you.

How to be irresistible to women technique 6: Develop the Right Attitude.

When you’re with a woman, it is important that you have the right attitude. You need to remain confident, positive and upbeat regardless of how beautiful she might be. Be appreciative but not submissive.

If a woman thinks that she’s too good for you, you’ve lost half the battle.

If a woman knows that you think she’s too good for you, then you might as well quit. Don’t be clingy.

Maintain your own independence and remain confident. Don’t grovel. If she’s convinced that she’s too good for you, move onto someone else. She’s not the superstar. You are.

How to be irresistible to women technique 7: Tease.

Irish dramatist, Oscar Wilde once famously said ‘if you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they’ll kill you’. He had a good point.

Teasing is a good way of showing her your bad side. Don’t let her get away with behaviour that you do not approve of. Tease her if she makes claims about how important she is.

If she’s self-absorbed and keeps acting like she’s the most beautiful person in the world, tease her, and make some statement along the lines of “Really? You don’t say.”

Bad boys don’t let girls get away with unacceptable behaviour. Don’t be afraid to put her in place.

Just remember to do it nicely. Humour helps.

Using these tips will go a long way in unleashing your inner bad guy. Your girlfriend will love you for it and will find you simply irresistible.

But first you’ll still need a proper plan to seduce them.

It’s okay if you don’t already have one.

My friend James Bradley does…